WEDDING ISN’T THE MOST IMPORTANT
Written by Counselor Adofoli
One of the lies lots of women have believed is that, wedding day is the most important day in her life. Almost every unmarried young lady in her twenties has wedding pictures, gowns and decoration ideas on her phone. Some pastors won’t approve of your marriage if it is not a wedding forgetting the very important day in the life of a Christian lady is the day she accepts Jesus Christ as her personal Saviour, and not the day she weds at church.
Wedding is not the marriage; knowledge about marriage should be important to any woman than even the wedding. Sadly we minor in the major and major in the minor.
Ladies know about every detail of weddings, they have detailed knowledge about weddings but have a shallow knowledge about marriage. Ladies are busily planning how to become the most beautiful bride but not concerned about what it takes to be a wonderful wife.
Single young ladies cannot afford to miss wedding ceremonies. Even if she has to break hearts or disappoint someone to be there, she will, but she won’t make time to attend any marriage or relationship seminar. To her, it is a waste of time.
They are at various weddings with cameras, selfie sticks to capture every dress, colour, design and moves but won’t go along with pen and paper to take a few notes from the short sermon said at these weddings. To her, it’s another waste of time.
Ladies today are planning the perfect wedding without becoming the perfectly spouse for their marriage. They don’t spend time and resources knowing what they are made of or why they behave the way they do, but their concern is how they look on their wedding day.
These days, we have perfect couples on the wedding day, the prettiest bride and most handsome groom, which just last for a day; that is why a lot is invested in photo and video so they can keep the images of how perfect they were for a day. And for that matter, hotels are the perfect places to host them.
Trouble starts when they eventually get home, when the wedding gown is taken off, when the make-up is washed off, when the eye lashes fall off. It is at that point they realize how ugly they were. How they wasted time and resources on the outer, leaving out what they need inside.
In the house, they realize they don’t even have space in their heart to forgive each other or accommodate faults and short comings but had enough money to rent a vast space for wedding reception.
Have you ever ask yourself why people fail in their marriages but are very successful in their various vocation, calling, job? They didn’t go looking for knowledge on how to celebrate their first day at work, but rather on what they needed to succeed at their job.
No matter how much spice you put on rotten tomatoes, they won’t make your soup taste great. It takes healthy ingredients to make a great or healthy meal. Wedding doesn’t make the marriage. Work on yourself instead of planning your whole life for a wedding which lasts for only a day.
In conclusion “Sensible people will see trouble coming and avoid it, but an unthinking person will walk right into it and regret it later” Proverbs 22:3 (GNT).
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